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It’s come to my attention that, um, I fucking suck as a blogger.

It’s true. I do.

So… consider this an awareness of that fact. And just maybe I’ll actually write more.

But don’t bank on it.

Right. The whole site is down.

I inadvertently missed a renewal notice for the domain which is why we’re down.

Helen renewed it this morning.

We’ll be back soon. Promise.

My apologies to all of you.

Just because.

One of our two Brazilian Rainbows passed on today. I know it probably sounds silly to most people to feel sad when a fish dies, but they’re part of our family. And now our family is minus one.

He was quite beautiful and playful. I’ll miss him greatly.

Some stuff I like. Go here to make your own.

Since it is in the Humble Opinion of this Author that the delineations of experience within the aptly named Transgender Community are at Odds with Each Other over the various Hierarchies and overarching Theories held within, a Solution of Solomon-like Dimensions should be Proposed.

It is not the opinion of this Author that any particular viewpoint is Right (including the Authors’) and that said Viewpoints only seem to cause Dissension and Dismay amongst the various Peoples affiliated with the Transgender “Community.” In point of fact, the Author would oblige the Reader to consider the Fact that the Author’s opinion is Moot, Untrustworthy, Cynical and Satirical.

Which makes this Proposal one that all should Read and Ponder:

Namely, that because the Dissension over Labels within this Community is getting in the Way of Progress for said Community, it is the Authors opinion that the Division between Transsexuals and Crossdressers be delineated as such: Any such Persons who have Transitioned before the Age of Twenty-Five will henceforth be known as a Transsexual; and, any such Persons who who Experience Transgender Feelings after the Age of Twenty-Five be considered Crossdressers and that they be Subjugated under the Laws of Society and Good Conscience.

It should be Noted that the Division is Based on Action according to Age. True Transexuals act Promptly.

This clear Marker will surely be Controversial, but it is the Author’s Opinion that a Border based on Age can only make Clear to all Parties whether one is a Transsexual or a Crossdresser.

Furthermore, according to the Truth of Hierarchies, all Transsexuals should be accorded all of the Rights and Privileges accorded to them by the Community. Pedestals should properly be made Available for Transsexuals to Stand Upon to proclaim to the fullest those Rights and Privileges that all Good People acknowledge.

Crossdressers, by all Knowing People, should henceforth be Known as people with Gender Confusion and should be Pitied and Consoled with a proper mixture of Revulsion.

It is a Proposal, as should be Patently Obvious to all Thinking People, that will harbor some Controversy amongst said Community, but will in the Fullness of Time, clearly Separate the Wheat from the Chaff. Which can only Advance the Cause of the Truly Transgendered.

It should not have to be Said that Any who solely Identify as Transgender within the Transgender Community should be Killed Forthwith so there Will be no Messy Middle Ground that Divides said Community.

In the Greater Interests of Us All, I, the aforesaid Ridiculous Author, do solemnly Submit this Proposal to the Powers that Be.

A Rebuttal to this Proposal can be found at this Location.

Trans people will realize that they don’t exist in a void. That their (our? mine? yours?) pain is but another manifestation of, um, pain. People get pain. They don’t get gender shit. Why should they?

But as long as we’re willing to ignore the fact that our pain as transpeople is shared by those who love us - in very different ways, of course, but pain is pain - then I don’t think we stand a chance.

Sexual orientation IS different from gender identity. Duh. But why oh why are we willing to cling to the coattails of the GLB when it suits our purposes and ignore the things that actually acknowledge the fact that we of the T do have some unique issues of our own?

“But that would be hard! Those people have done an enormous amount of work and we should hang onto their coattails! After all, I have gay friends too!”

Fuck that.

We’re at least 15 years behind the GLB movement and it’s about time that transpeople realize that as a matter of, um, fucking reality.

Or aren’t we smart enough to realize that? Have the coattails been too comfortable?

Until we start to deal with the realities of how our pain is mirrored by those who love us we not only deserve to be the fourth letter, I’m not even sure we should be included at all.

Selfishness is as selfishness does.

Yes, I’m bitter. You talk to hundreds of partners and see how you feel.

Drifting upwards from the street comes the sounds of our neighbors gathered ’round a portable barbecue singing Christmas Carols. Mixed with the white noise of the Prospect Expressway and our own well-trodden street, it sounds really lovely.

I’m a grinch on most of this stuff, but I like me my Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer, and the far-off sounds of carols.

Who says New Yorkers don’t have a heart? They’re out on the friggin’ street singing away!

I love this place somedays.

It’s just too rich. And it most obviously comes from a time that is, well… not lately. Will Farrell’s SNL George Bush is only a memory. But wow, I’m working out the new strategery after seeing this.

It’s hard!